Some adjustments I don't think will be as easy the next time around.
I worked in sports before meeting my husband and thought I almost had an idea of what "coaching football" meant. Fast forward to 6 years later and 5 moves and I am still adjusting to this lifestyle. To be honest I don't think I will ever really adjust to it, but hopefully my kids will and as long as Team DeVan is together we can do this. But as my kids get older and we go on year 2 (longest time we have lived in a state) I am starting to realize that there are parts of this journey that will never be easy. Here are some of the things I've been struggling with lately.
Pulling my kids out of school
My son is only in preschool and I'm dreading the time he has to make new school friends. I know some wives stay behind while kids finish out school, but even with that I know how hard it will be to say goodbye and start fresh. This is especially hard since my son (who was the youngest in his preschool) has been learning how to communicate and build better friendships. It's starting to pay off and he's building relationships that will kill me to end.
Decorating a house again
The first year we lived in our house I was scared to decorate and paint for fear of moving (we did it 5 times in 5 years). For the first time every I have started to put my personal stamp on rooms in our house, and I would love to take them with me :(. I am actually starting to feel like we live in a home, and that the home is ours. The positive spin on this is that if there are things I dislike about my current home I can hopefully find the solution in the next one, because that's easy right ladies?
Career still being on hold
We agreed that I would stay home and raise the kids while they were young and not in full time school. When we were without kids every time I started to look into getting state certified (I'm a massage therapist) or get a job offer we would move. I love being a Mom and I love my kids dearly, but I also love working and doing the other piece of me that makes me happy. People say "being a stay at home Mom is a full-time job", well thanks Captain Obvious, but I also miss providing an income. To be honest I still hold some resentment about not being able to work, which is okay Mom's, and it rears its head from time to time. I am grateful for the time with my children and am grateful that my husband's job provides this life, but it's also okay to also have work ambitions of your own. I'm learning it's okay to want more for yourself.
This is one my husband is actually having trouble with lately. He's fine with me doing weekend trips and trips to see family. In August we are going to Disney (big surprise) and my husband actually mentioned he was sad he wouldn't be able to go. He knows how much my kids love Disney and I think he is worried we will make some memories without him. Which is true, but it doesn't mean we don't wish he was there or will miss him. As my kids get older and get in school, and start having a different break than my husband, there will be more trips without him. As my husband says "that's part of coaching", but I think he thought most of the hard changes would only apply to me. Lol.
I know that there are different struggles during different times and stages of a career and I would love to hear some of yours.
Is there anything you are having a hard time dealing with? Or just want to vent about?